You can’t know if your partner is a sex addict without having him assessment by a trained clinician.  But you can trust your instincts and the facts you know already have to put the pieces together and get the help you need.

Look for the following:

• Staying up late to watch television or surf the Web
• Looking at pornographic material such as magazines, books, videos and clothing catalogs
• Frequently isolating from spouses or partners, and not informing them of their whereabouts
• Are controlling during sexual activity or have frequent mood swings before or after sex
• Are demanding about sex, especially regarding time and place
• Gets angry if someone shows concern about a problem with pornography
• Offers no appropriate communication during sex
• Lacks intimacy before, during and after sex, and offers little or no genuine intimacy in the relationship
• Does not want to socialize with others, especially peers who might intimidate them
• Fails to account for increasing number of calls to 800- or 900- toll-free numbers
• Frequently rents pornographic movies
• Seems to be preoccupied in public with everything around them
• Has tried to switch to other forms of pornography to show a lack of dependency on one kind; concocts rules to cut down but doesn’t adhere to them
• Feels depressed
• Is increasingly dishonest
• Hides pornography at work or home
• Lacks close friends of the same sex
• Frequently uses sexual humor
• Always has a good reason for looking at pornography

If any of these are hurting you in your relationship, there’s help.  You can heal from the pain.  See my services and contact page for more information.