May I share my heart for a second? The heart I’m sharing is full of grief and optimism–all at the same time. Not sure I’ve ever felt this way before. The leak of names and emails on a certain cheating website has put some of my clients into chaos. It’s also brought suspicions to the … [Read more…]
It’s almost time for Valentine’s Day 2014 which can be a triggering and hurtful date when you’re healing as the partner of a sex addict. Many of my clients share their struggles of resurging feelings of shame, betrayal, trauma, and grief when they reflect on the meaning of this particular day and what it means … [Read more…]
As the recovered partner of a former sex addict and intimacy anorexic I was taught at the beginning of the healing process to ensure I had boundaries. I had no idea what that meant then, and sometimes I still question how this works! Boundaries can be hard to pin down. We weren’t taught this outright. … [Read more…]
Originally written in December 2012 Step 11 Reflections: I’ve sought after God in many ways over my life, but nothing like this past year and a bit where I faithfully pray, read His word, crave to learn more, and share Jesus with others. Until recovery, and more specifically steps 9-11, I didn’t know what it … [Read more…]
Originally written over 2 years ago, I thought it would be worth sharing for those who still struggle with thinking control is the answer. Dear Control: Oh dear friend how I hate to see you go. You’ve protected my sanity for 15 years, but I can do it on my own now. You remind … [Read more…]
Reflections of a triggering weekend Triggers can be difficult at the best of times and even worse when they develop into flashbacks. This is hard to manage and takes time from which to recover. I learned to acknowledged what was happening, turn to my bible, and not lash out at those around me. Each time I’ve … [Read more…]